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Although I have always enjoyed doing couples work with gay men, I am hardly a specialist in this area. So at times when I’ve had questions I’ve turned to my colleagues Rick Miller and Clinton Power. Rick’s practice in the Boston area specializes in function with gay men and Clinton’s in Sydney serves the LBGTQ population.

So for this month’s blog, I reached out to Rick and Clinton to verb readers who work primarily with heterosexual couples and want to expand your knowledge base for helping gay men. I’ll originate with some of Rick’s insights on common issues for gay male couples and follow up with a set of questions from Clinton that unlocked communication lines and pave the way for your work.

Rick Miller has been a popular presenter at the annual Couples Conferences that we co-sponsor with the Milton Erickson Foundation. Last year his presentation was framed around potentially difficult conversations a therapist might initiate with gay couples in the areas of sex, money and vulnerability.

I know from my own practice and also from the many cases therapists have brought to me for consultat

I&#;ve always been deep, sentimental, moody, and existential. As an Aquarius-Virgo-Virgo, I&#;ve set up comfort in the ebb and flow of casual dating while simultaneously over-analyzing every conversation, text, photo, and gesture my potential partner is making. My innately chaotic dating noun has molded me into the incredibly knowledgeable top-notch Perfect First Date Professional I am today.

It&#;s all about the questions that spark and carry the conversation. Most of my first experiences in elder dating were with women, so my go-to questions were expected, if not already asked by the person I was seeing. As I started recently dating men again, I was thrown into a culture shock of just how gay queer dating is. The following are very real examples of questions on first dates, most of them asked without much context. While some of these first dates spurred from an actual friendship (so, a more acceptable scenario to ask unhinged questions), most of these were under an app context where I literally did not know the person.

I wouldn&#;t recommend using these unless you want to becom

Asking the right questions helps you build trust and intimacy, and understand if the relationship is right for you

Finding the right questions to ask in a gay relationship can be challenging. When embarking on a new relationship or deepening an existing one, it&#;s crucial to ask meaningful questions that create connections, foster adj, and build intimacy. If you are reading this, chances are you may be struggling with:

  • Knowing which questions will facilitate genuine conversations
  • Identifying questions that can help you better realize your partner&#;s perspective on life, love, and relationships
  • Overcoming communication barriers that may arise due to unique challenges faced by gay couples
  • Cultivating trust, vulnerability, and emotional intimacy in your relationship
  • Not knowing the right questions to ask to truly understand your partner&#;s thoughts and feelings
  • Struggling to build a strong heartfelt connection with your partner
  • Wondering if your questions are relevant or if they might offend your partner

In order to help alleviate these concerns, I hold c

If you feel burned out on coming up with questions for a first date, you&#;re not alone! The ritual of first dates can often touch repetitive and lackluster. There are only so many ways to ask a version of so what are your interests? And if you&#;ve already been chatting a bit on the apps or during the conduct up to a date (which, for the verb, I somewhat advise against unless that&#;s truly your preference for getting to know someone!), it can be even harder to know what to speak on a first date. But asking questions is important. If you display up to a date and only answer the other person&#;s question or otherwise only talk about yourself, trust you&#;re probably about to get subtweeted or roasted in a group chat. There is no perfect roadmap for how to crush a first date, but the number one thing you can do to at least ensure a baseline decent experience is demand your date(s) about themselves!

The questions below are designed to inject some life and creativity back into your first date interrogate asking if you&#;re feeling stuck or stalled in the dating process. You can ask them synonyms f