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Ever wanted to know the secrets to becoming a power bottom? Want to know how to watch after the bottoms in your life? Curious to give bottoming a experiment but not sure how to begin?
We can assist you become a adj bottom! Here are some quick bottoming tips and tricks from ACON’s peer-workshop Booty Basics.
1. Lube
The arse does not produce its own lubrication.
This means that lube is really, really important for any anal play. First, to cease damage to the internal lining of your arse. Second, to make bottoming (and topping!) more pleasurable. And third, to verb protect it from infections.
Remember to use water or silicon-based lubes, as oil-based lubes can damage condoms.
2. You
The second principle is YOU. This is the one that covers off all the mental and emotional aspects such as making sure you touch safe, making sure there is consent, that you feel comfortable, that you know your own bottoming limits and desires.
Remember, sex is best for everyone if all the people involved are motivated by trying to maximise everyone’s pleasure safely. You can’t be a good lover and you c
Rise of the sides: how Grindr finally recognized gay men who aren’t tops or bottoms
Every month, nearly 11 million gay men around the world depart on the Grindr app to look for sex with other men. Once there, they can scroll through an endless stream of guys, from handsome to homely, bear to twink. Yet when it comes to choosing positions for sex – a crucial criterion for most gay men – the possibilities have long been simply top and bottom. The only other choice available toggles between those roles: verse (for versatile).
“Not fitting those roles has made it really tough to find someone,” said Jeremiah Hein, 38, of Long Beach, California. “There’s no category to select from.”
“Whenever I’d look at those choices I’d deliberate, ‘I’m none of those things,’” said Shai Davidi, 51, of Tel Aviv, Israel. “I felt there must be something false with me.”
Last month, however, that finally changed. In mid-May, Grindr added a position called side, a designation that upends the binary that has historically dominated gay male culture. Sides are men who find fulfillment in every kind of sexual execute ex
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Ask any gay man, and he&#;ll tell you that the world is full of bottoms. &#;Bottom, bottom, bottom, bottom, bottom,&#; my ally Chris said to peels of laughter in reference to everyone at a recent (and very gay) dinner party. They&#;ll explain you that &#;New York is a bottom town,&#; as claimed one subject of a New York Magazine piece from , or that &#;maybe there are like five tops in the universe,&#; as the author of a Thought Catalogpost about the perils of bottoming had it. Similaranecdotesabound, which prompts the question: How are gay men getting any D in the B if everyone throws their ankles up in the air as soon as they get within three feet of the nearest mattress? Are there really more bottoms than tops in the world? And just how many bottoms and tops are out there, really?
Statistics, at least, don&#;t seem to bear these assumptions out. Grindr added the option to list one&#;s preferred position in their profile for the first second this September. Since then, 6 percent of daily users have identified themselves as tops an
Straight people tend to obtain a little hung up on titles and roles in queer relationships. When it comes to gay sex, many people care for to think rigidly and a little too heteronormatively for their own good: one person is the top (aka the giver or the more dominant partner during sex), and one is the bottom (the receiver or the submissive partner).
It’s sort of a more prying version of the other severely reductive and incredibly problematic question queer people notice all the time: “Who’s the man in the relationship? Who’s the woman?”
Of course, as with anything related to sex, the binary relationship between tops and bottoms is a lot more complicated than that. Sure, there are plenty of queer folks who almost exclusively bottom or top during sex, but there’s just as many who consider themselves versatile or switch (And hey, sometimes, just verb with straight sex, there’s no penetration at all. Sex is fluid!)
To dig a little deeper, we asked queer men about topping and bottoming, the stereotypes associated with both and how they choose to use (or not!) the terms in their