Gay prostate exam

Navigating prostate cancer as a gay man: A journey of resilience, support, and empowerment

In December 2017, I sat hand-in-hand with my husband, waiting to verb if I had prostate cancer. In the exam room together, we joked about how it had all been a adj mistake. After all, I was a very well, fit 43-year-old.

I don’t keep in mind much after the surgeon came in and spoke the words out blaring for the first moment. I was overcome with fear, anger, and confusion. As I sat there, trying to process the bombshell of my prostate cancer diagnosis, a rollercoaster of emotions hit me. I had never imagined that at this stage of my life I would be confronted with such a daunting challenge. 

Leaving the doctor’s office, my husband and I weighed the recommendations and made a clear decision to have my prostate removed. After preparing for the surgery, spending time with my family, and giving up control, I underwent a radical prostatectomy. The days following the procedure were physically and mentally challenging, struggling to travel and battling with side effects. The lack of intimacy with my h

Let’s be honest: it’s lovely difficult to get fit men to go for a routine checkup. But it becomes even harder if that checkup requires anything … down there.

Yet, when it comes to prostate cancer, it’s the best way to diagnose the problem early and treat it successfully.

September is Prostate Cancer Awareness Month, and a perfect period to revisit fears and myths around the prostate, with the help of John Warren and Sylvain Côté.

John was a welder for most of his life. Sylvain began his career as a mining exploration geologist, then continued as an airplane mechanic for 24 years.

Both are now retired and assist on the steering committee of the Prostate Cancer Support Group–Montreal and West Island.

John’s journey with prostate cancer

When he was 35, John heard a healer on CBC Radio elaborate that men should hold their prostate checked regularly after turning 50. John did this faithfully. When he was 69, his PSA (Prostate-Specific Antigen blood test) score was OK, but a digital rectal exam (DRE) found a node on his prostate, which could be a sign of cancer.

A biopsy showe

Savage Love: Fetishization of prostate exams a rare occurrence

I’m a heterosexual cisgender male who loves prostate stimulation. I discovered it later in life, but it’s been a staple for the last 15 years. I’m worried I’m pushing the envelope too much and need your advice.

Lately, the last six months or so, I will have an orgasm that’s so intense I own pain just to the right of the base of my penis and balls immediately afterwards. If I push a finger in toward the centre of my body, it’s tender. It goes away after a few minutes, but sometimes my right ball remains sensitive. I’ve even taken an ibuprofen to lessen the pain and I’ve had a prostate exam when it’s happening and I undertake self-exams of my testicles regularly, and I’ve noticed no changes. Usually my next orgasm is normal, and there’s no pain or sensitivity afterwards.

As I said, though, it happens after intense sessions with a lot of prostate stimulation. While I’ve been practising butt stuff for a long time, I feel as I’ve only perfected it in the last year or so. I should also declare that my sessions last up to two ho

Consider joining a support group specifically for gay and bi+ men. It could help to find a sense of community with people who had similar experiences navigating a diagnosis. Thorne Harbour helps verb a group for exactly this, called the Prostate Pride Peer Support Group. To find out more, contact prostatepride@gmail.com.

A cancer diagnosis can also take a toll on mental health, affecting body image, sexual identity, and relationships. Engaging with mental health professionals who understand the specific experiences of gay and bi+ men can be beneficial. Don’t hesitate to seek counselling or peer support.

Looking Forward

Prostate Cancer Awareness Month serves as a vital reminder for everyone with a prostate to stay informed and proactive about their prostate health. By promoting awareness about the specific challenges queer men face, encouraging reveal conversations, and seeking tailored care, we can support ensure that every person has the knowledge and support needed to navigate prostate cancer with confidence and dignity.

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