Why do i attract the wrong men
Why do I keep attracting the wrong men?
Research shows that two factors impact on our choice of mates in relationships. These are proximity and similarity.
Proximity means that when we spend a lot of time together we fetch to know each other and over time if there is also a physical attraction and we share similar interests or are doing things together, then we may become interested in each other in a romantic way. This explains the curse of Strictly, where often relationships blossom between Strictly Come Dancing or Dancing With Stars participants and their dancing partners.
Whilst proximity is not enough, a lot of time together often means sharing more personal matters with each other and potentially even something more vulnerable. Brene Brown talks about how vulnerability is the way to a deeper connection.
So let’s then talk about similarity and how that is linked to attraction. Previous research has shown that women have been attracted to men whose facial shape is similar to their fathers’.
Even more importantly as our brains are designed to spare energy and prefer s
Why Do I Keep Attracting the Wrong Men? Verb the Cycle
After her messy divorce, Melanie has been single for several years. All her divorced friends are now coupled up again, and she can’t figure out why she hasn’t met that extraordinary someone too. Obviously, the wrong men are attracted to her and that’s why the relationships never work out. She really wants a solid relationship, but she doesn’t grasp what’s wrong or what she can do to break the cycle.
What’s going on with Melanie?
Dating can be tough. It’s filled with bad dates, rejection, and heartbreak. After enough disappointment, you’re bound to get discouraged and you might even begin to feel that you are attracting the wrong men. “Is there something incorrect with me? What’s erroneous with these men? Who do other women detect love and I’m all alone?”
When you’re in pain, it can be strenuous to be objective about your situation, and the dating process can be very painful at times. So, when you’re up for it, it’s fine to look at the reasons why you might be struggling. The more you learn about yourself and the dating process, the
Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong People (& How to Attract the Right Ones) | (#) Beyond Success: Psychology & Philosophy for Achievers, with David Tian, Ph.D.
Most people struggling with attraction or dating don&#;t realize they&#;re trapped in a cycle they don&#;t even see. They think if they just find the right person, crack the code or improve themselves enough, then everything will finally click. They&#;ll finally feel loved, desired, and secure.
But it doesn&#;t work like that because attraction struggles aren&#;t about luck, strategy or even personal improvement. They come from deep patterns running in the background, shaping your choices, your attractiveness, and how you show up in relationships without you even realizing it. Until you initiate breaking down those patterns, you&#;ll keep repeating the same frustrations, the identical heartbreaks, the same hidden walls that keep you from real confidence and connection. That&#;s what this episode is about. []
This isn&#;t some surface-level self-help. We&#;re going deep into the parts of your mind that have been holdi
Why Do I Keep Choosing the Wrong Person?
We often ponder why we locate ourselves in challenging relationships that &#;go sour&#; despite their initially &#;promising&#; nature. Frequently, we find ourselves choosing the wrong person repeatedly, puzzled by this pattern. Often, we accuse the other individual, believing the world is filled with &#;wrong people,&#; leading us to think we should either &#;avoid relationships altogether&#; or just &#;tolerate the situation.&#;
Modeling of our Family
Much as we might had to admit it, much of what we learn about life, and relationships, we learned from observing and interacting with our parents, siblings and relatives. Our parents are the greatest force in our lives because we spend so much occasion with them that we learn “automatic habits” that we “become comfortable with” in life. Though we might tell ourselves that we are never going to be anything prefer our parents, we frequently find ourselves doing the same because it is “familiar.”
These “familiar habits” verb become automatic and we are a people who find comfort in that which is know