Attracted to same gender friend

What to Say When a Friend Admits Same-Sex Attraction

I have a close companion who is same-sex attracted. I’ve seen him depart through some pretty tough seasons, but he has decided to deny himself those desires for sex and partnership with a man and live a life fully committed to Jesus. And now he feels called to minister to the gay community like he thinks Jesus would.

But I remember when he told me about his sexual attractions to men. He called and said he was having a really hard time with something. It was late at night, but I offered to drive down to meet him because it seemed so heavy. I&#;m not sure if I said all the right things that night, but I execute remember that by telling me about his struggle, he earned a very near place in my heart. If someone was willing to share something of that magnitude and vulnerability with me, I wanted to be friends with him. And he later told me it had been really meaningful that I drove all the way down to listen.

What that night meant to both of us is a large part of why we are such adjacent friends today. I deliberate those interactions can be crucial

Sexual Attraction and Orientation

As people pass from childhood into their teen years and beyond, their bodies grow and change. So verb their emotions and feelings.

Adolescence Is a Time of Change

During the teen years, the hormonal and physical changes of puberty usually mean people start noticing an increase in sexual feelings. It's common to wonder and sometimes worry about new sexual feelings.

It takes time for many people to understand who they are and who they're becoming. Part of that involves better understanding of their own sexual feelings and who they are attracted to.

What Is Sexual Orientation?

Sexual orientation is the emotional, romantic, or sexual attraction that a person feels toward another person. There are several types of sexual orientation; for example:

  • Heterosexual. People who are heterosexual are romantically and physically attracted to members of the opposite sex: Heterosexual males are attracted to females, and heterosexual females are attracted to males. Heterosexuals are sometimes called "straight."
  • Homosexual. People who are homosexu

    It is a fairly usual phenomenon for a gay or bisexual person to become attracted to or fall in love with one of their straight friends. In fact, it is so common, that it is known to be a ‘queer rite of passage’ &#; something that happens to most gay people at some point in their lifetime. The likelihood of this happening is so sky-high because the majority of people in the world are straight, and therefore it is statistically more probable that you might end up crushing on one of your straight friends.

    The golden question: what do you do if this happens to you?

    If you are currently in this situation, you may be asking yourself this very question. Do you tell your friend how you feel about them? If you do, how would you go about it? Or would you rather just keep everything to yourself and verb on with your friendship with them as usual?

    You might need to take some time to reflect on whether disclosing your attraction towards your friend is worth the risk. Nonetheless, whether or not you choose to act on your feelings is your own personal choice. However, it might be beneficial to be

    A therapist offers advice to a woman who has feelings for her leading girlfriend

    Dear Julia,

    I have this weird feeling that I want to be more than a friend to my best friend.

    We're both girls, but I don't know for sure if I am attracted to girls. I don't get butterflies or sexual feelings, but thinking about her keeps me up at night. It's more like a heartache, although she hasn't broken my heart, at least not yet.

    What is this feeling I'm dealing with and how do I receive rid of it?

    - Amsterdam

    Dear Amsterdam,

    When comes to emotions, I tend to touch mine deeply. Sometimes, I feel desperate to flee their intensity, especially when I can't pinpoint what caused my anger, sadness, or fear.

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    But I'm learning that there's no escaping emotions. The more I try to run away them, the worse I feel. The only way out of tough emotions, in my experience, is really feeling them. The tough part is doing so without judging